Do you have the relationships you want to have? Sometimes we need to break up with people if they are not good for us, it can be a partner, a relative or a friend. It takes a lot of courage to do this, but letting other people abuse us is a really bad idea. People who abuse other people seldom change, but you can change by saying no thank you and walk away. A good relationship = respect, kindness, support, positive feedback, friendship, laughter, openness, trust and love. We are happy when our partner, relative or friend succeed in life and we share both the good and the bad times. An unhealthy relationships is just the opposite. Sometimes it is our fault that a relationship is not working. If that is the case, what do you need to do to improve your relationships? //Marianne


14 responses to “Relationships

  1. I think we all have those people in our lives that we …..can’t get away from and probably don’t even want to get away from…..but the relationship is just not that good.

    “If that is the case, what do you need to do to improve your relationships?”
    Sometimes it’s the little relationships that are harder to fix than the bigger ones. We say…….”oh well, we just have to live with Aunt so and so” etc.
    Relationships are a two way street and sometimes we crash or clash. Perhaps one should do more to make sure you are going in the same direction.

    • Thank you for a very insightful comment. Yes, all relationships are a two way street and that is why it’s so important that we ask ourselves: what can I do to improve my relationships? When we allow other people to abuse us, or we abuse others by constantly criticise them for example, we hurt ourselves in a way that is not healthy. No one is a saint and sometimes we say and do stupid things, and then it’s important that we take responsibility and apologies for what we have said or done. And that’s not always easy to do, :).

  2. Hopefully your advice will reach some people who feel trapped in an unhealthy relationship. we often don’t realize how unhealthy it is//was until we’re out of it. z

    • Unfortunately, this is true. We begin to believe that it is normal to be in an unhealthy relationship. That is why it’s so important to work with our self-esteem, something we should teach our children from an early age. When we have a good self-esteem we seldom have unhealthy relationships because we value ourselves better.

  3. Sometimes it’s nothing more than beginning a conversation with,; ‘Did you know I feel that, you….’

    You may meet with heavy resistance but, perhaps you won’t. Some relationships are repairable. It depends on whether the relationship has the strength to withstand a conversation beginning, there, and reaches a conclusion.

    • I totally agree with you. Sometimes we’re not even aware that we hurt other people. When they tell us that is the case, we have the chance to repair the relationship, and change our behaviour. And sometimes people refuse to change, they think it’s ok to be abusive and then we’ve have to consider if it’s worth it. It seldom is, but it is a decision each of us has to solve to our best ability.

  4. I think some relationships are worth keeping with a little work and understanding on both sides. I get rid of people who are complainers, time wasters and drain my positive energy.

    • No one is a saint, and it takes a lot a work for a relationship to work. Some people are just not prepared to do their part in a relationship which always suprises me.

  5. Marianne, you always give such wise advice. You also have such a friendly way about presenting the advice that makes it even more welcoming for the reader. Thereby, I think, ensuring they “hear” your postive message! Excellent post. 🙂

  6. Well, I recently spoke up in a relationship I felt was being unrespectful to me and my family, sadly the people felt offended and said that they did not need to listen to this…I was very careful not to offend but still they did feel that way…now, I have no idea where I stand with them but am truly glad I spoke up for me and my family…thank you Marianne, Alexandra

    • Alexandra, it’s not always easy to take a stand and sometimes we get the reaction you got. It’s unfortunate, but sometimes we just have to put our foot down. You feel unsure about where you stand now which is understandable. What kind of relationship do you want to have with this family? Give yourself plenty of time to think about this, both by yourself and together with your husband, and maybe with your kids as well. // Marianne

  7. kbicritretnoco1982

    Reblogged this on Jamie Machado Site.

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