“Often we find it easier to think our way around things rather than to feel our way through them: what can we do to pull ourselves out of a bad mood? What can we buy, remove, or repair that will reduce or solve a loved one’s anger or sadness?
In retrospect, I realize I have spent many hours problem solving emotional facts I just needed to feel. I know now that my frequent labors to understand what went wrong, while somewhat useful, often were distractions from feeling the sadness and disappointment necessary to heal and move on. It’s all very human. No one wants to fell pain, especially when you can’t quite point to a specific cut or wound. So it is with the heart. There’s nothing to show or stitch up, yet everything is affected.
The truth is that while analyzing and strategizing and preparing ourselves can occupy our minds, and may even help prevent us from being hurt the same way twice. There is no substitute for giving the wound air, which in the case of the heart means saying deeply, without aversion or self-pity, “Ouch”. From “The book of awakening” by Mark Nepo. This is a favorite text of mine, I often read it as a reminder to feel, not to solve. I am so used to solve both my own and others problem, it is part of my DNA both professional and personal. I often do it without thinking but practice makes perfect… //Marianne
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Creation is ongoing. The world begins anew each day. That is the miracle that makes not a sound, but which changes everything, if we can be quit enough to feel it happen. When we can participate in this, we begin anew each day. Consider how the sun washes the Earth with its heat and then clouds dissipate, and grasses grow, and stones crumble when no one is looking to reveal a smoother, deeper face. It is the same with us. In a moment of realness, the clouds in our mind clear and our passion is restored, and our walls crumble when no one is looking. It all continues and refreshes, if we let it. It all renews so subtly. We think it is night that covers the world, but everything living is re-created in that mysterious moment of rest that blankets us all. And each time you blink, if you pause to let your heart flutter with nothing but air to flutter about, each time you open your eyes, you can begin again. It is true. This is the moment of resurrection, the opening of your eyes. These beautiful words comes from “The book of awakening” by Mark Nepo. Today is a new beginning for me.
For the first time in many, many months I can relax and once again enjoy life fully. I have much to be thankful for, and I look forward to once more be in contact with all of you. Dear Wp-friends, I wish you all a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays! // Marianne
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