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Beneath problem solving

IMG_5986Often we find it easier to think our way around things rather than to feel our way through them: what can we do to pull ourselves out of a bad mood? What can we buy, remove, or repair that will reduce or solve a loved one’s anger or sadness?

In retrospect, I realize I have spent many hours problem solving emotional facts I just needed to feel. I know now that my frequent labors to understand what went wrong, while somewhat useful, often were distractions from feeling the sadness and disappointment necessary to heal and move on. It’s all very human. No one wants to fell pain, especially when you can’t quite point to a specific cut or wound. So it is with the heart. There’s nothing to show or stitch up, yet everything is affected.

The truth is that while analyzing and strategizing and preparing ourselves can occupy our minds, and may even help prevent us from being hurt the same way twice. There is no substitute for giving the wound air, which in the case of the heart means saying deeply, without aversion or self-pity, “Ouch”. From “The book of awakening” by Mark Nepo. This is a favorite text of mine, I often read it as a reminder to feel, not to solve. I am so used to solve both my own and others problem, it is part of my DNA both professional and personal. I often do it without thinking but practice makes perfect… //Marianne


Solving a problem

IMG_3433Think about a problem that you have. Write it down, and then ask yourself: how can I most easily solve this? Write down three different solutions, one long-term, one short-term and one temporary solution. Before you leave work, or go to bed read through your problem and your solutions. Start the day by reading it through once again. Do this exercise until you find a solution that you are happy with. You might find your answer immediately, but if not, this is an easy method to use both in your professional, and your private life. //Marianne


Do what many Nobel Prize winners do; use sleep for problem solving. Before you go to bed write a list of things you want sorted out before morning and repeat them quietly to yourself before falling asleep. Keep a pen and paper next to your bed so you can jot down the answers. //Marianne


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