Tag Archives: relationships

Beneath problem solving

IMG_5986Often we find it easier to think our way around things rather than to feel our way through them: what can we do to pull ourselves out of a bad mood? What can we buy, remove, or repair that will reduce or solve a loved one’s anger or sadness?

In retrospect, I realize I have spent many hours problem solving emotional facts I just needed to feel. I know now that my frequent labors to understand what went wrong, while somewhat useful, often were distractions from feeling the sadness and disappointment necessary to heal and move on. It’s all very human. No one wants to fell pain, especially when you can’t quite point to a specific cut or wound. So it is with the heart. There’s nothing to show or stitch up, yet everything is affected.

The truth is that while analyzing and strategizing and preparing ourselves can occupy our minds, and may even help prevent us from being hurt the same way twice. There is no substitute for giving the wound air, which in the case of the heart means saying deeply, without aversion or self-pity, “Ouch”. From “The book of awakening” by Mark Nepo. This is a favorite text of mine, I often read it as a reminder to feel, not to solve. I am so used to solve both my own and others problem, it is part of my DNA both professional and personal. I often do it without thinking but practice makes perfect… //Marianne

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Happy New Year!

Happy-New-Year-2015Make a conscious choice this year and skip your New Year’s resolutions. Wait until the 10th of January instead and then make your plan of action for 2015. Now you have 10 days to think about what you want, and also do a top three list of goals you want to reach within the next 12 months. New Year’s Eve is all about being grateful for the past year and time for celebration. Not setting diffuse and ill-advised goals, which are easily broken within a week. This is a classic trap that many of us have fallen into, and not just once but several times. But not this time, this time we do it right :). Happy New Year! //Marianne

Happy Holidays

IMG_6037It’s your world. You’re a shareholder, take an active interest in it – Anonymous. Love, peace and understanding – please, take care of each other. And remember to have fun as well. Happy Holidays!   //Marianne

Miracle thinking

Hjärtan“There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle”, Albert Einstein.
Happy Valentine’s Day from Stockholm! //Marianne

Beginning Again

DSC_4100Creation is ongoing. The world begins anew each day. That is the miracle that makes not a sound, but which changes everything, if we can be quit enough to feel it happen. When we can participate in this, we begin anew each day. Consider how the sun washes the Earth with its heat and then clouds dissipate, and grasses grow, and stones crumble when no one is looking to reveal a smoother, deeper face. It is the same with us. In a moment of realness, the clouds in our mind clear and our passion is restored, and our walls crumble when no one is looking. It all continues and refreshes, if we let it. It all renews so subtly. We think it is night that covers the world, but everything living is re-created in that mysterious moment of rest that blankets us all. And each time you blink, if you pause to let your heart flutter with nothing but air to flutter about, each time you open your eyes, you can begin again. It is true. This is the moment of resurrection, the opening of your eyes. These beautiful words comes from “The book of awakening” by Mark Nepo. Today is a new beginning for me.
For the first time in many, many months I can relax and once again enjoy life fully. I have much to be thankful for, and I look forward to once more be in contact with all of you. Dear Wp-friends, I wish you all a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays! // Marianne

March

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To my surprise it is already March. What happened to January and February? It is hard to believe that today is the 64th day of 2013. What has happened so far with your goals? And what has happened with my three major goals: work – relationship – health? Lets start with my health. I exercise every day, I eat three healthy meals a day and I no longer cut corners with my sleep. It is easy, it is fun and I am totally committed to change bad habits into healthy habits.

Relationships: here I have two goals. Falling in love and improving existing relationships. Falling in love is of course a process that involves one more person, and not something I can control. My goal is to be open-minded.  To say yes more often than I say no, and I’m happy to report that the yes side is leading. A good relationship needs a lot of love. When you travel a lot like I do, it is sometimes difficult to maintain your relationships. Or it used to be, nowadays there is no longer any excuse to be absent when Internet reaches most parts of the world. 2013 I have made time in my calendar for private emails once a week, Facebook a couple times a week, and postcard once a month. I also use Skype as often as possible due to different time zones.

Work: I am still working too many hours, but not as much as before and my goal is to work only Monday to Friday. I have problems reaching the targets I have set, and I am surprised. After all I am a goals specialist, and all I can say at the moment: it is an interesting experience for me not reaching my goals. I give myself this week to analyse what is not working, and why it is not working. What has happened so far with your goals? // Marianne

Thank you!

DSC_4633366 days ago I set myself a target to blog in English for 365 days. I had tried before and failed, this time failure was not an option. My work is to inspire people to live happier, more fulfilled and successful lives. Yesterday I reached my goal to blog non-stop for 365 day. Through sickness and health, through joy and sorrow my blog marianne365days has been my companion. Some days I wanted to give up, but at the end of the day it was never an option. And the reason for that are YOU. Every single day for 365 days, a kind soul has shown their appreciation of my blog. Every single day someone made me laugh, challenged my belief system and inspired me to be a better person. Some of you have even become trusted friends and I treasure our friendship. THANK YOU! Thank you so much for all your wonderful comments, for sharing your life with me and for all your support – I am so grateful! Now what? I will continue to blog but not every day, and I’m also thinking of new ways to inspire people around the world. Right now I’m taking a break for a few days, see you soon… Soto tale! Marianne